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Harbor House & the Sexual Assault Center of NWGA Enter Partnership

Contact: Gail Garland
Harbor House
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Harbor House and the Sexual Assault Center of NWGA (SAC) will enter into an agreement on Feb. 16 in which Kim Davis, current executive director of the SAC, will become the joint executive director of both entities, announced the Boards of Directors of both organizations today.

After 19-and-a-half years with Harbor House, current Executive Director Gail Garland is moving to Cobb Co. due to her husband’s new job, which gave the Harbor House Board an opportunity to step back and think strategically about the right next step for the organization.

“We realized that this provided an opportunity to evaluate all options in regards to how Harbor House can best serve the community and its victims going forward,” said Scott Wood, president of the Harbor House Board of Directors. “As part of this process, we approached the SAC about how our two organizations together could enhance the services we provide. We were very impressed by Kim’s strong leadership of the SAC throughout her 13 years of service. This seemed like a natural fit for Harbor House moving forward.”

Chip Hood, president of the SAC Board of Directors, agreed and explained that, for the time being, both organizations will continue to operate independently while sharing an executive director. “Harbor House has always been an important community partner for the SAC, and we look forward to the opportunity to collaborate even more under this new leadership structure,” said Hood. “We see this as a very positive move for our community because the two organizations already serve many of the same victims. Additionally, both provide critical educational programs and resources to the community as a whole. It is a win-win.”

Wood added that the two boards will be exploring the possibility of co-location due to synergies in serving common victims. “We have studied other communities such as Athens/Clarke Co. that have their Children’s Advocacy Center and Sexual Assault Center located together, and there are many benefits to the individuals being served,” he explained.

As she wraps up her time at Harbor House, Garland says she knows she is leaving the organization in great hands. “Kim and I have collaborated for years,” she said. “She truly values the work of our center and will provide our amazing staff with support and encouragement. Our Board of Directors is as strong as ever and the leadership they will continue to provide during this transition will be second to none.”

Davis said she is ready for the challenge. “I know that I have big shoes to fill, but I am honored and looking forward to the opportunity to serve both organizations in this capacity,” she said. “Harbor House and the SAC have always worked well together, and this new enhanced partnership will enable us to serve our community and our clients even better.”

Fifty Shades of Abuse

Recently I was asked to sit on a panel and answer questions about the ever so popular 'Fifty Shades of Grey'. While the panel is tomorrow, I felt this was an appropriate time to write this blog. Many have asked my opinion about the movie/books. Fifty shades eroticizes violence against women. No matter how you look at it, at the end of the day, the book and movie are about abuse, power and control and violence. Every interaction with Christian and Anastasia involves abuse. He stalks, intimidates her and socially isolates her.  At times, Ana tells him she feels demeaned and abused, but Christian tells her to embrace and deal with the feelings. Throughout the book, Christian uses alcohol to impair her consent and begins most of his sexual interactions with her while he is angry with her and she is under the influence. If those aren't red flags, then I don't know what is.

The fact is that people will associate this as being a normal healthy relationship. There is already one situation at the University of Illinois where a Freshman has been arrested. He stated that he was reenacting the Fifty Shades of Grey movie. We have to think about the messages we are sending. I'm not saying that 'Fifty Shades" causes these behaviors, but the abuse message creates a context that normalizes abuse. There are many messages in television and music that normalize abuse, this one just really took it to a different level. For those who are at risk for abuse or experience abuse, it makes it difficult to recognize it when it happens.

A lot of people think that 'Fifty Shades' is just showing what a BDSM relationship looks like. 'Fifty Shades' is far from a normal BDSM relationship. In a BDSM relationship, both parties are consenting to the activity. Drugs and alcohol negate consent. Both parties also mutually agree upon what activities will be performed before engaging in the activities. Many times in 'Fifty Shades', alcohol is used and Ana is pressured into doing things she is uncomfortable with.

Here are the facts. Christian Grey is a stalker. In almost every chapter of the three books, he is stalking Ana in some form. In Chapter two of the first book he shows up at Ana's workplace, which is way out of his way. He is possessive of Ana before they are even considered to be a couple. Driving three hours from his home to pop up at her work is just strange. He is manipulative and intimidating from the very first date. During the first date he uses manipulation to make Ana question herself. He requires her to call him Mr. Grey or Sir, while he can call her Ana. He continuously gets her drunk to make things easier. One cannot give consent while under the influence of drugs or alcohol, so we are already looking at sexual assault within the first five chapters. Christian uses threatening language telling her "If you were mine, you wouldn't be able to sit down for a week after the stunt you pulled yesterday." She had went out with her friends, which one is allowed to do even in a dating relationship. But not when you are controlled by an abuser.  Christian isolates her from family and friends, like most abusers do. This gives them more power and control and limits her ability to tell anyone what is really going on.

Christian wants Ana to think he cares for her, but he has no consideration for her well being. During his second sexual encounter with her, he makes the statement to her that every time she moves, he wants her to be reminded that he has been there. Following that statement with "you are mine".

Christian rapes Ana. She tells him him no, and starts kicking him. Instead of respecting her, he tells her that if she struggles he will tie her feet together and that if she makes a noise he will gag her.  While E.L James thinks this might be enjoyable, in most states, when a women says no, it means no. Rape is rape.  Ana realizes she needs space, but Christian refuses to give it to her. Even when she finally gets away to visit her mother, he shows up uninvited.

Christian expects Ana to be his side for everything, and uses threats to control her and make her feel that this is her fault. When she doesn't want to do as he says, he threatens to abuse her in public. Reminder that only his feelings matter and he doesn't care if he humiliates her. 

Our goal for this panel tomorrow is to help you understand how this book promotes abuse and that this is not healthy. Many of the women we work with live in this type of hell. It isn't their choice and they sure as hell don't want to stay. Mr Grey is the man that many women are terrified of. If you or someone you know is in this type of relationship, please seek help. You can contact the Sexual Assault Center at 706-802-0580.

Every 2 minutes, someone in the U.S. is sexually assaulted.

Did you know?

Sexual Assault occurs anytime a person is forced into any sexual act. Sexual Assault can occur in ANY type of relationship. It can happen with friends, acquaintances, family, co-workers, and intimate partners (including spouses) and strangers.

Sexual Assault is a crime motivated by the need to control, humiliate, and harm. It is a crime even if you were afraid to fight back, drinking or doing drugs, or have had consensual sex with the person who attacked you! It does not matter if it was a completed rape or if you were not physically hurt.

Victims of sexual assault are:

  • 3 times more likely to suffer from depression
  • 6 times more likely to suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
  • 13 times more likely to abuse alcohol
  • 26 times more likely to abuse drugs
  • 4 times more likely to contemplate suicide

Who does sexual assault happen to? Where does sexual assault happen? It can happen to anyone, anywhere...

If you or someone you know are a victim of sexual assault, please call us immediately. You do not have to make the decision to press charges at this time. Let us help you through this process.

1-866-655-8625

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